A Weight loss tip: Goal vs. Desire

I came across this video that discusses the difference between goals and desire. After pondering on the topic for a moment, I thought it was very insightful and poignant. When we embark on a goal, it’s more structural and goal oriented. We have an immediate reaction to start a new productive lifestyle. This determination will resolute stagnate problems to become more enrich, enlighten and have a prosperous life. Goals are excellent to have to make you accountable to help you surpass your achievement. But it can also be trite and bland checking off every item on your grocery list. Well, in a hilarious way, that’s the comparison of checking off a list and checking it twice… who wants to live in a business suit type of personality... a big BLAH!!!!!





I rather have a bikini type of personality. You see, desire is contrastive from a boring goal. Desire is an orchestrated joy that you want to operate the love wheel turning in every directional pleasure. Desire is incredibly delicious drooling the taste of “wanting”. It captivates the allure and beauty for life to be purposeful and joyous. Desire is being engage with menial moments to lead up the BIGGER moments. You will be enlivened with creative ideals always being receptive to infinite possibilities to grow happily sensuous. Now that’s my type of transformation.

Weight loss is not just physical but also spiritual and mental. It’s a lifestyle base. Changing your life doesn’t have to become a goal that is WRITTEN inside a note pad, it’s to be a CREATIVE ACTIVATION being program in your daily lifestyle. It doesn’t always have be a step by step situation, but a rhythmic dance that goes through peaks and valley. Weight loss doesn’t need to be dreadful, but it can be fun and sexy watching your life transforming what you desire to become.

So lest make a desirous list that can be practical to use everyday, to every moment of your sensuous transformation. Here is mine in particular order.

My Desires…

1. To live sensually free
2. To become prosperous
3. To be sexually empowered
4. To be inquisitive to learn more
5. To write erotic poetry
6. To enjoy blissful sex
7. To dance to the rhythm of life
8. To walk with a posterior feminine walk
9. To never denied my self happiness
10. To sometimes indulge in rich tasty deserts
11. To give hugs and pleasure
12. To give great massages to my self and other
13. To look more pleasant
14. To engage more with people
15. To be submissive to my thoughts
16. To honor the feminine Goddess
17. To be with my twin flame
18. To love myself
19. To love you
20. BEING

A BBW lose it!!! It’s FIT, CURVE and BEAUTIFULLY CARVE, BABY!!!!

Hello beautiful people. Once again we are gathering here for love for our self. I want to talk about weight for a minute. Weight is an astronomical problem here in the United States, especially for the people of color. We all know all the history of diabetes, heart problems, tumors, cardiovascular disease, and sexual problems and so forth that causes major problem within the community. It can be a financial burden and health burden to your family that may have to be caregivers to assist those in bad health. This weight loss industry is a billion dollars of revenues that is supported by the media, market advertisement, the BIG PHARMA , doctors and YOU to keep this circulated. We become infatuated with the after pictures that YOU too can look like this person propaganda. What should have been an opportunity to help people with their weight issue is only perpetuating the hardships of their emotions. The emotional damages are still there lingering and lament inside the body, just waiting for the opportunity to arrive. It’s like deploying a soldier for combat that has free will to shoot, and maybe kill someone, then send him back as a civilian without properly diagnosing his emotional hurts and faulty mind. You don’t think he/she can still remember those awful situations embedded in their sub-conscious that they can impulsively hurt someone. Yes it is still a possibility!!!

But there is one major factor that is very profitable with the sizable women community that is the BBW (Big Beautiful Woman). Being a BBW sounds very liberating, being confident and happy. It ensues all those things but is that enough being healthy and satisfy or just a movement to be trendy. I’m a BBW at the moment. I’m in the process to get FIT, CURVED AND CARVED. That’s my new motto. I’ve always kept my appearance of clothes, make-up and other essentials to look fabulous. There are some beautiful, gorgeous, voluptuous women with well define bodies. I think, most of them have work-out before, but somewhere has given up the progress to lose weight. So instead opt for the lifestyle being BBW.

I know, when a person sees me they only see my full-figure, but don’t have any notions that I’ve lost about 50 pounds, previously.I kept it off about 2 yrs., but I still have over 100 pounds to go. I love my new shapely body, but I want more off. I can have the body that I want, right? Since, this year I’ve already loss 12 pounds. YAY ME!!!! But what I find disturbing though, that when some former fatty loss weight, there are some people who are still BBW, would say, Dang, she lost all her curves, she look better bigger…WHAT!!!!! I mean, I can understand their sentiments for getting too skinny. Being skinny is not healthy, either. I believe being healthy and fit is the best approach for any weight loss standards. I know, the women of color, will never become skinny, unless you are naturally slim. The point is, I think we have gotten lazy and using being confidence and self-esteem more superior over our weight size. FIT, CURVE and CARVE are words that you are being active and as well being healthy. I think the word BIG, BEAUTIFUL are words that are subliminal and transmuted to just being BIG. When does self-esteem and confident stops becoming more superior over your weight? I mean, shouldn't it be a balance. You can be 400 to damn near 10,000 pounds (exaggerating) and have all the confidents and esteem in the galaxy, but where does it ends. Do you think we take BBW (big beautiful woman) way to far?

Let me bring some clarification. I believe you should have confident and self-esteem about yourself. In the past sizable women have been ridicule and abhorrent against their weight from other people disdainment. Society has place a bad stigma on plus size women like being lazy, ugly, non-sexual, gluttony, unmotivated, dumb every stereotypical myth to describe women's weight. There were exceptional women who became famous and display capabilities that esponge every myth like Queen Latifah, Kelly Price, Jennifer Hudson and Monique that says you can be full-figure and successful.

But, Monique set a certain standard in Hollywood to help restore other voluptuous women's well-being and esteem. She promoted sex appeal, clothing, sassiness, haughtiness and sensuality. Albeit, there were others like Monique, but she dominated being the spoke-person. Her campaign help enlist many women to follow their dreams in desiring the possibilities to become whatever they want. She even had a television show to display her brand.

Every women became hypnotize to this IDEAL. So after, plus size business started blossoming many became successful. It become more glamorize even coin different names like BBW (BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN), THICK DIMES, CURVAIOUS BODY, SIZE FINE it became glorified. Now there are modeling agencies, clothing lines, dating services, every type of Media Corporation, even right here on facebook groups.

We saw a rapid incline and a place where we can belong. The ideal was great and needed. But however, through observation there's no balance. It seems as our CONFIDENT grew our WAISTLINE became bigger. AS long their is fetishes and aggrandize corporation to bring dolla, dolla bills yall, I think we have became enslave with this image being promoted.

Our confident and esteem is more superior to our weight size. You don't have to be a size 2, but be healthy. As you become older your body can not withhold all that damn weight; you will lose muscle value; you will ache; have potential adding MORE weight; you walk slower; your flexibility will decrease; you will start to wobble...see what I mean. You have to remain active and healthy. Still keep your Curve but just Carve it a little. So the new word can be I'M CURVE BUT CARVE.

I just want you to look at the longetivity of your future. I hope you want to live beyond 50 years. Trust me will be become harder as you age. Then it’s not going to be cute and fabulous anymore. No matter how we feel about exercise, we still have to remain active. I will show you fun ways shedding the pound and still feeling sexy and sensual. Who says weight loss has to be boring, it can be deliciously fun and exciting.

What the Dark Goddess is teaching me? Remember, Reinventing and Reintroduction

Hello beautiful people!!! I haven’t written in my blog for a while. I know, I’ve been infrequent writing in my blog, but I will become much better contributing and sharing vital information with you. This a new year, or should, I say a new change of a year. The New Year that we celebrate festively isn’t the New Year. The New Year only implies during the start of spring. It’s much better that way, don’t you think? It’s more enliven, active, blooming, creatively open and more abundance. We are still in hibernation season reflecting and being submissive with our thoughts connecting with the universe. We are gathering and harvesting our ideas and desire to manifest during the spring time. We are still being activated inside of darkness.

Lately, the Dark Goddess has been engaging me back into the Womb, to go back to hibernate my e-motions (energy in motions) and learn how to transmute anger, fear, insecurities, impatient, and laziness into powerful contribution toward spiritual wealth. These are my dark shadows of my self that has been self-sabotaging my life. I’ve grown a lot more recently, but haven’t engaged it through it physically into my reality. I’ve contribute, shared and embark a lot of knowledge and wisdom to other people, but not to myself, fully and earnestly. How can I be a vessel of the FEMININE ENERGY if I’m not equipping it for myself? It’s not easy to display images of your angelic good side than exposing your weakness to be judge and ridicule by others. How to be truly authentic in your spiritual walk? How to face adversities amidst the unknown? How to find acceptance within others and indifferences? How to be loving and compassionate towards others? These questions are deep seated within the DARKNESS. The modalities may not be fascinatingly beautiful, but becoming vulnerable and self-aware brings veneration to your personally growth.

Being in the dark, may seem scary and dreadful for most people because they don’t overstand real transformation. Darkness is where life begins and ends. Darkness is the spiraling dance that moves constantly through life, death and re-birth and regenerating new creative ideas. Darkness is CHAOIC that starts the creative design to bring BALANCE and a HARMONIOUS flow to emerge through the LIGHT. Darkness is where Lightness begins to convert your life differently and freely…well just BEING.

This clairvoyant overview has shown me clues from different aspects through reading books, other people’s introspection, and media outlook and through my own inner-thoughts. What I gather is to learn how to balance my masculine energy with my feminine energy. Masculine energy is about being active, being a leader, protection, and being a solider from you within. Sometimes, we can lack those areas within ourselves, just as much; women can have to much masculine, but in my situation its lack of masculine characteristic. I’m not protecting my interested; being a leader in my life and taking the initiative to be a soldier for myself. As a woman, we need to be balance with both. Your inside reality should reflect your outside reality. If we are not, we are only living a lie, facade, being pretentious and not being authentic with ourselves. Our power will not be operable if we are unbalance, you are just confusing at the universe of what your truly desire the most of life.

I can’t live that type of lifestyle anymore. It’s not fulfilling my life; sensually it’s not healthy and stunting my growth of possibilities to become MORE!!!! This is a transformational overhaul of any wasteful, toxic, burden gunk on my physical, mental and spiritual to become eradicated so that I’m living more sensuous and happy. There are more to come of this fascinating exposure to share and hopefully some things can resonate with you.

Sexual Energy: The Basis of Consciousness

I’m in wonderment about the word Conscious. We have read, heard and use it in every dialogue in the most sophisticated matter. This most glorified word is a prominent fixture in all religion and spiritual grandiose, pompous theatrical oratory speaking events. Not everyone is privy to this type of magical displays, or maybe, not on the same vibrated level of connection, but everyone does have a Conscious Mind. But the issues are everyone incomprehensively doesn’t understand the meaning of conscious. It is foreign. It is some other language, RDD2 type of shit. While we are in this New Age of awareness, people are even more confused of the prospects of this magical energy flow called Conscious. But really it’s a very simple concept without all the jargons of elitist groups, or some big cosmo-galactical sermon. It’s very durable. I will explicably try to explain in laymen terms, the way I have conceptualize it for me.

What is Conscious? It is a feeling of awakening, enliven, understanding, being in existence in life. Now what is Sexual Energy? It is our life force, our creative energy, our horny-ness, our passion, our breath; it is useable energy that will create something in the physical, without it you are dead. That sounds reasonable enough, right? Well this simplicity is hard to gasp for most people. People think life is a GREAT BIG production of a GREAT BIG explosion and a GREAT BIG tangible something that will appear out of nowhere. I really don’t know what it is, but it is not that BIG, but something relatively small that grows in abundance. It is something that we use to create people, places and things. It is a seed of thought, ideal and a composite of what that inanimate product will become, eventually.

Lest take it back elementary style. Lest say a man and a woman want to create a child, it will take a sperm from the male and an egg from the female. Now within this process both are having a feeling of awakening that now exists in their body. The thought of having a sexual relation is emerging (Conscious) and the energy is becoming more intense, more passionate and the breathing is becoming more rapidly incline (Sexual Energy). The man will insert his penis inside the women’s vagina. The Sexual Energy is now in an accelerated motion that will explode into an orgasm. Remember the sperm; the sperm is being chemicalize from the male’s sexual energy. The sperm is the seat of Consciousness that holds the characteristic, the personality, a full composite of the inanimate product, which is a child. In laymen terms, it’s every single THOUGHT inside the sperm. Now the sperm needs a place to be incubated inside a black hole, which is inside the women’s vagina. The female’s egg is the fertilizer that also been chemicalize from the female’s sexual energy from blood menstruation, nutrients, and thoughts, but there are more spiritual complexities that a woman endure during pregnancy. That’s another blog. So lest stay simple. Now during the incubation stage, the egg will grow through involution phrase. Sexual Energy is being use in this state, too. Sexual Energy is being transmuted into concentrative, potent energy growing within it-self, evolve into a physical matter. This physical matter becomes a child.

(Conscious + Sexual Energy = Physical Creation (Reality)
This same philosophy is used with EVERYTHING….EVERYTHING. A house, a car, clothes, pencil, paper, animals, insects, plants; it is every astronomical single thing on Earth and also the Universe. Everything is relative, inter connective, as above, so below…yep…EVERYTHING. This is the sacred mathematical equation for anything that is part reality.
You may ask, Well, I can understand the sperm and egg concept to create a child, but how will that same formula be operative in my life? I’m glad you asked that question; well remember conscious being an awakening factor that is constantly being activated like awakening from your sleep, brushing your teeth, putting on your clothes, eating breakfast everyday you are making a conscious decision to become productive. Through these actions are thoughts to be added as a descriptive vehicle, adding some spunk and flavor in your reality. For example, are you happy, joyful, passionate, sad, mad or angry? You are emotionalizing your thoughts into action. Sexual Energy aggrandizes these thoughts into higher privileges into opening all the physical equivalency. In other words, your energy becomes more magnetize of people around you. Have you ever heard statements like, it’s something about that person’s energy that I liked or disliked; that person has a great aura; that person makes me feel good or bad, we can get exhaustive here, but the point is we are driven by sexual energy?

This formula can help you create a business, create innovative product, create a luscious home, creating a mate, whatever you want and desire. Life is Conscious. Life is Creative and so are you. This is just my comprehension and basic learning about Conscious living. I’m still forever learning about life as I take my journey ecstatically being in my purpose.

Written By April Malone © 2010

Sexual Energy: The Real Law of Attraction

The first obtainable part of the secret is your thoughts, a burning desire, breaking all obstacles, having a definite yearning and using undefeatable situation as a learning tool for preparations for your real Purpose. Sometimes your life can be like an omnipresent media outlook. Giving you clues and being astutely aware of tangible and intangible atmospheric views to guide into your reality for your desired possibilities. Being present allows the providential occurrences to become greater in hindsight to observe your new awakening thoughts.

The easiest way to obtain this BURNING DESIRE is through your sexual energy. It’s the most potency of fuel power to ignite that BURNING DESIRE. Most methodical systems about achieving the SECRET, gives the patrons misrepresentation that you must have adequate education, wealth of money, already prioritize to comprehensibly achieve the soundings from different elite groups, but it’s already manufacture inside of you without the substantial greed.

But how do you attain such emotions and understanding of prolific qualities of sexual energies. Sexual energies are the fuels to emotionalize your feelings. These emotions are interconnected with LOVE, FAITH AND SEX. All three purposes will enhance the veneration of you. Your sub-conscious mind becomes the transportation to the Definite Intelligence that controls the ALL beings. We are eluded through the FAITH of possibilities to provide the physical equivalent to become a reality. In order to have FAITH is live your life through LOVE of all dimensions of life. Sexual energy is the prominent source that creates the movements of your emotions and feelings, these sources of energies provides the stabilization of LOVE, FAITH and SEX.

So if these feelings are equip to elevate our minds into faith in knowing we are able to achieve our desirable wants, how is one to know and familiarize our emotions with sexual energy? Well sexual energy can be both constructive and destructive through a person’s sub-conscious thoughts, which is, the faith bases of your mind connected with the Definite Intelligence. In order to be constructive, one needs to remain positive. Positivity is the dominate force that magnetize your life’s surroundings. Solitarily it comes from you through sexual health and well-being. Being in great standings with your physical health, gives the saying, if you feel good, you look good gives that statement its best exemplary point. Your sub-conscious mind is the fuel base from within to bring the reality into physical equivalent being produce, played out and demonstrated in all aspects of your life. It’s easily to instruct our sub-conscious to believe in our destructive behavior becoming quarantinable in a disease stricken canal creating poverty inside your mind. That will increase self-doubt, over-eating, being over-weight, non-sexual, hatred, violent and broken. So your reality can be done how ever you want to be.

Sometimes this process seems relatively easy to attain, ostensibly it takes a lot of self-discipline and determination to be presented. How would you change your life, if you hand the magical wand to instantaneously change your life? What one thing can you change now? What ever you change that will be your greatest starting focal point.

Sexual Health and Exercise pt.2: Serotonin and Dopamine

Healthy sexual energy through exercise is an important part of our daily lives from the endocrine system. Our bodies are made of cells that are the building blocks. We operate on a cellular level that holds information from our hormones, which is the messenger that uses cells to travel through the blood streams, even though the hormones travels as well, but it only effect the cells that are genetically programmed to receive and responds to the messages. Hormones can be influence by stress, sexual repressions, infections and detriment emotions. The glands also play important roles in sexual health. The glands are a group of cells that produce chemicals that secretes through out the bodies. The endocrine glands have 20 major hormones that are release in the bloodstreams to be transported by cells. Dang the cells are the business!!! The sex hormones are typical the culprit for major mishap correlated towards our health. There are two sex hormones I want to discuss are serotonin and dopamine. I called it the male and female energy duo, the neurotransmitters in the brain.

We are energetic people, period. Let’s say you sit down mediating or relaxed in your breathing. You will notice a slight intense feeling. This feeling will feel good. That’s your sexual energy the most potent energy that is powerful. This comes from your sexual organs. If you are aware and if you keep breathing you can feel your energy rising from your spine. This is called the Kundalini Energy. While you are in this state of being, if someone comes behind you and touch, that energy will become intensely commanding. At this moment you may want to have sex or be intimate with this person immediately. It’s a gratify feeling. This is human nature. I gave that example to demonstrate the divine quality of energy and the impact of your thoughts how it can translate into a negative or positive situation, because everything is stimulated from the genitals.

We are motivated people driven by force to want and need possessions. Dopamine is commonly associated with pleasure which is your motive systems, this where your emotions are stored in the hypothalamus, providing feeling of enjoyment and reinforcement to motivate a person proactively to perform certain activities. Dopamine is released by naturally rewarding experiences such as food, sex and use of certain drugs and neutral stimuli that become associated with them. Dopamine has many functions of the brain; the way the brain controls our movements. Exercise will help increase the levels of desire. When you exercise you are changing the shape of your body that will create a habit to reward the possibilities of your realities. This is a great motivational tool.

We are also emotional people, this is also true more so in women. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter in the brain. Serotonin is made from amino acids, called tryptophan. This hormone is about how you “feel”, if your serotonin becomes too low, you will become depress. Its importance into the bodily functions includes mood, sleeping abilities, metabolism, appetite and sexuality. Health issues as depression and obesity been linked to imbalance in serotonins levels. Women are prone to this more to develop some deficiencies because lost of sexual desire; being non-orgasmic; being competitive amongst men and women; suppressing your femininity and sensuality. In order for women to engross in her well-being, we need to fully develop a sensual, healthy lifestyle. This is what effect your estrogen level, as well. Serotonin deserve a topic by itself, it’s that powerful and the effectors that cause nervous breakdown, weight gains, a delinquency in sexual attitudes. Basically, you will be miserable. I’ll revisit this again in a future blog about, women and serotonins a very serious topic.

Ok, lest speak how it effect in the sexual relation. Both serotonins and dopamine plays a big role in our well-being. Relatively, the amounts of both hormones are distributed differently in men and women. Both sexes are carriers, but women have more dopamine than men and men have more serotonin than women.

Dopamines in women our emotions and feelings are more intensify during sexual arousal. We open our heart more becoming more sexually motivated. When we are sexually motivated we are more creative; more orgasmic; we will be more sensitive to a touch. The oxytocin, other sexual hormones, is release for bonding with our partner. We like to nurture our partner sexually; being attentive to his desired needs; receiving his love, caresses and sensual touches. These things allow you to become that “Sex Kitten”, or “Brazen Lover”. Dopamine helps women to identify themselves as feminine and boost up their serotonins feeling happy and satisfy.

Serotonin in men is stronger. It makes them more passionate; more control of their well-being; more courage to adventure; being a leader; more pleasing and willing to satisfy you, giving what you want willingly. But if the serotonin becomes too low, men will become impulsive and too aggressive the serotonins are imbalance. The dopamine will encourage men’s well-being to be beneficial for his lover and family.

You see, women need to be happy, satisfy, and loving to support a man’s health to provide her the best quality of life. We can not deny the complimentary between men and women. Sexual health is so important to maintain a strong, foundational relationship.

This is just a basic overview about sexual health. I’m just fascinated about how sex and exercise are relatable. This is a personal journey to learn and just sharing it to the world.

Be bless!!!!

Exercise and Sexual Attractiveness part1

Sexual Attractiveness is what makes sexual energy recognizable to see, taste, hear, touch and smell by using our sensuality. We can identify it as feminine energy or masculine energy. That’s the mutual attractions of the opposite sex. Sensuality is the soil of your foundation that has many aspects of a sexual being. Sexual attractiveness is the most potent in relationship because it stems from sexual energy. This help you attract whatever you deserve in a mate, business, spiritually, and physically.

Most time we figure that our looks are the source of attraction; it’s only a fraction. It’s not the only thing that contributes to your well-being. If you become obsessive only with your looks, it will become destructive. We have all gone through some desperate way to lose weight. Sometimes it can be drastic change through plastic surgery, gastric bypass and innumerable fad diets; these type of choices leads to devastation, heartache, and financial constraint, but very popular. If your physical attractiveness was the only thing, then everyone would be happy with themselves. There are numerous of beautiful woman exist, but not everyone process sexual attractiveness. The truth be told, beauty is from within your sexual feminine energy. You look beautiful from within; the outside will reflect that effortlessly. Ponder on this, when you eat healthy you will lose weight without saying you are. That’s just one of the incentives. If losing weight was it, then everyone would be satisfied. Sexual attractiveness acts the same way.

Even though, a few people are tapped in by default because maybe their environment help them establish that attribute, but still they don’t know how to tap into that energy, directly. Through our sensual senses we are connected to the infinity of life. If a person cannot touch, taste, smell, hear or see they will be totally unconscious. Conscious is developing through sensuality. Reconnected with your senses will allow to know yourself better. We have different perception of ourselves through family, friends and religion. Sometimes our real thoughts are basically view from other people’s perceptions. Connecting with your senses will help you see more details than just seeing the bigger picture.

This is a very concentrated energy that pulls from your navel where most of your sexual energy is stored. This attraction is about “attracting” your desire, joy and passion with life. Exercising is the portal that defines, accentuates, illuminate, and activate every cells of your body. This consists on breathing, body movements, healthy eating and also positive thoughts. This will be a part 2 on this subject as I breakdown the alchemy of true healthy sexual healing through exercise, which is cause of all of our dis-ease problems, relationships, economics and sexual perception.

I’m learning these techniques, through my own weightless journey. I’ m always self-discovering about sensuality and the power that births every infinite possibilities.